Brief Therapy May Be the Answer for You

People’s lives are increasingly busy. Life is filled with meetings, travel for work, vacations, kids, and partners. Days race by into weeks, leaving less and less time for self care. With work, children, caring for sick family members, working out, buying...

Adrenal Fatigue: Does Your Soul Feel Tired?

No pep, drive, or energy and wondering where it went? Perhaps your soul feels untouched by life’s beauty and your excitement about things that used to bring feelings of pleasure is gone. Or, maybe life has lost its color, making everything seem black and white. Are...

Relationships: Heavy Baggage or a Carry-on?

In the first few encounters with a potential partner, we tend to assess their assets as well as their baggage. For example how many marriages and divorces has this person had? How many children, stepchildren, or any volatile relationships with exes? Then, there is the...

Life As One Big Checklist

Has life become just another thing to check off your to-do list? In my practice, many young people in their 20’s and 30’s have similar unconscious or conscious life goals that they want in a specified order — particular achievements to cross off “their list.”...

Texting Across Generations

“My friends understand me, but my mom and I fight because we miscommunicate when we text.” Recently, in a counseling session, my client and her daughter were discussing relationship conflicts that seem to be triggered by texting each other. Eventually, the teenage...

The More I Learn the Less I Know

The more I learn about psychology  — whether theories of development and cognition, brain function, types of therapy and range of diagnoses, or the myriad psychotropic medications and their effect on the brain — the less I think we, as psychologists, really know. The...

Money, Sex, and Power

In relationships, the balance between money, power, and sex are intertwined. Often, when power of control shifts, interest in the desire for sex changes. If a couple does not discuss how money will be spent, saved, or managed, misunderstandings develop. If ongoing,...

Running Toward Being

Peak-experiences occur while running, driving, dancing, meditating, and sometimes when least expected. Peak-experiences release creative energy and promote self-growth. You know truth when you experience one. There is no question when you realize a universal truth. It...

Psychology of Attraction in Relationships

Theories of love can’t fully explain love and attraction, but if you learn to trust your intuition you will find more successful relationships. After seeing many clients struggling in love and relationships, over the years I have developed a theory about...